In a recent blog post I talked about coping mechanisms for depression, and one of these was music. Music can be a great coping mechanism for many and whatever your mood, whether you’re happy or sad, there’s nothing like putting your headphones in, turning up the volume and blocking the world out for a while.
Depression affects 1 in 4 of us, and with a lot of people still afraid to come forward and open up about depression that number is probably higher. Among the people that suffer with depression, men in particular find it hard to come forward with 34% of men reporting that they would be embarrassed and ashamed to disclose a mental illness or stress than admit to a physical injury.
Awareness for depression has come on leaps and bounds in recent years with more people opening up about how they feel than ever before. It’s fantastic and I commend it but there’s still some work to do. One of the subjects I’m passionate about is the mental health awareness of boys and men.
Three out of four suicides in the UK are by men, with Suicide being the biggest killer of men under 35. In my hometown of Wales Suicide rates for men have rocketed above the UK average, the highest rate they have been since 1981. I only have to look at my newsfeed to see the severity of the situation in Cardiff, with several friends losing loved ones to Suicide within the space of a few years. These statistics are shocking and yet not surprising, as the stigma still exists when it comes to men and mental health.
As a mum of young boys it’s something I’m incredibly passionate about, and I’ve always encouraged my boys never to be ashamed about how they feel, and to never be afraid to open up.We need to lay the foundations early on with more focus on education and awareness. It’s so important to show our children, but especially young boys, that it’s okay to talk. The bottom line is, we need to do better for our boys.
One young man who’s willing to try is local artist Mikey Holden who’s track ‘Isolated’ explores his own battle with the black dog whilst raising awareness for others. Mikey uses his passions of music and mental health to create this touching track, sending out a message in his music that no one should suffer alone.
Photography: Neil Pesticcio, Cardiff.
I asked Mikey what the inspiration was for this song:
‘Since a young age I’ve battled with my mental health and I’ve watch family members also deal with the crippling affects of depression, so it’s always been something that I have been around and witnessed and felt the pressures of. I’ve always touched on depression in previous releases with my music because it’s something I feel people need to be open with. Music is what I use as a coping mechanism and as a sort of antidepressant so to speak. Whilst being able to release my emotions through my music, I’m also trying to help others realise that they’re not going through this alone, and that was my overall aim with Isolated. I felt that I needed to be 100% honest with myself and delve deep into my own mind without sugarcoating anything to help people speak out about their own battles and raise awareness to what day to day life is like for people that battle with their mental health and also shed some light on the subject for people that have difficulty understand what it’s like for people that suffer’.
I also asked him what advice he would give to any men suffering with depression…
‘Everyone has their own different way of coping and there isn’t a magic bullet or one thing that will cure all, but what I do know is a huge help for me was writing all my thoughts and feelings down. It was only by pure chance that something whilst writing down all my thought and feelings rhymed and then decided to start writing music and I haven’t stopped since! I can’t explain how important it is for you to speak out, whether that be to a trusted family member, friend, work colleague or GP. The worst thing that you could do is leave it all build and bottle it all up, because sooner or later you will have to confront it head on. There’s so many people that would be willing to help, which at my lowest point I didn’t realise, but there are 24 hours helplines, and charity based organisation you can get in contact with. There is always someone to help, even when you think there isn’t. You just have to speak out. A local nonprofit based organisation called HATW (Head Above The Waves), are constantly doing things to raise awareness and help people that battling with their mental health and have helped me a lot in the past, so they’re good people to get in touch with if you want to help also. You can’t find them on Facebook and also they have a website.’
If you or anyone you know is struggling with their mental health then please know you don’t need to fight it alone. Here are the details for the organisation Mikey mentioned along with a list of dedicated helplines for those in need.
But for now I will let the music do the talking, here it is Mikey Holden’s heartfelt track.